This is the first post in a series of posts related to picking up girls while travelling.

It is common fairly common practice for college students to take a trip away. Whether it is backpacking in Europe, a semester abroad or partying at Spring Break this is the best time of your life to get out there and experience something new. These trips are always super fun, full of new friends, experiences, sights and crazy parties. One element that makes going away even more fun is if you can create the opportunity to have a fun holiday romance with an exotic girl.

Travelling shouldn’t be just about picking up girls. If you spend all your time focusing on this, you will miss out on the many life changing environments and experiences that are out there in the world. That being said, you should still be aware of your surroundings and take advantages of any opportunities that come your way.

The other thing to note when you’re travelling is that you are in a new environment. You won’t know the venues you’re going to, you won’t have your friends around you (most of them at least), you may not know the language etc. For someone not used to being out of their element, these issues can cause you to freeze up or just not know what to do.

But don’t worry, there are lots of ways to adapt to new environment and ensure yourself the success you are looking for.

On to Transport

The first stage of any trip is getting there.  You may fly, drive, bus, train, taxi or any combination of the above. These are all great opportunities to get things rolling. Chances are, if you meet someone on the same route as you, they are going to the same or a close location. This is a great place to start meeting people.

One basic rule of travelling is that everyone is out to meet people and everyone is friendly, even though many people may be too shy to approach. Because of this, you should always be open to talking to everyone both guys and girls, old people and young people. If the girls around you see you are just a friendly, open guy, they won’t think it’s so strange when you go up and start talking to them.

Back to transport. When travelling on transport, there are a few things to note. The first:

Talk as Soon as you see her

If you sit down next to a girl in a bus terminal or on a plane, don’t sit there awkwardly for 30 min before you say something. Just say ‘hi’ straight away, and then continue with what you were doing (putting on your seatbelt, finishing your food etc). Once the first word has been said, it is much easier to reopen the conversation.

Never go direct!

Going direct can be the worst thing you can do when on public transport. If you sit down next to a girl for a 6 hour flight and tell her she is gorgeous, and she’s not into you, you are going to have a very awkward next 6 hours.

Be Social and Move Slow

You can’t escalate emotionally or physically on public transport until you‘re absolutely certain that she is into you. Even then, you still want to be cautious. The reason is the same as why you don’t go direct. You are locked in the same seat/bus/train as this girl for a decent period of time. It’s better to find out a bit about her life, set a time and place to meet later and get her digits. Just do the general travel routine:

Ask questions like:

Where are you going? Why did you choose there? How long are you away for?

Insert statements like:

I’m going to xyz because of xyz. I’m super excited. I hear its cool because of xyz.

Move on in that kind of structure. Focus the initial conversation about the trip. If she starts asking you personal questions like what you do, you can ask some back. But don’t be the first to ask. People go on holiday to escape their normal lives, don’t bring the conversation back to mundane topics.

Know your Time Constraints

To counter the above, one very important factor to always be aware of is your time constraint. If you are chatting at the boarding gate in an airport, you may only have 20 min until you have to board. If you’re on a train, it may only be one hour until you have to get off. You want to find out some key information before that happens. Key information is:

1. Is she going to the same city/town as you?
2. Who is she travelling with?
3. Where is she staying (don’t need the exact hotel, just the general area)
4. How long is she staying for

If these criteria align with your trip, you should close with something like:

Hey you seem cool; we should catch up for a drink later. My friend sent me an email with a bunch of cool bars to check out. Give me your number and I’ll let you know where we are heading.

Body language is one of the most important factors to a successful approach.

There are many schools of thought on what is good body language. Value and style has a lot to do with how successful you will be when starting a conversation. But there are definitive body language aspects that should be followed (or avoided) when starting a conversation with a girl you’re trying to get.

There are lots of theories that may or may not affect how well you go when trying to get a particular girl. Open body language such as open palms, showing the insides of your elbows and pointing your feet to someone show signs of interest and that you are open to a conversation.

Some say these are not good initially because they show too much interest, so showing disinterest initially is a better approach. Disinterest can be shown by talking over your shoulder and leaning back. You can then change your body language during the conversation to show interest once you feel she is attracted to you.

Others say you should display confidence by taking up space. Sitting with your legs spread out or your feet wide apart show you are not afraid to take up space thus displaying confidence.

All these techniques work to some degree. They are also very difficult to remember and calibrate on the spot. Understanding these concepts and applying them effectively is an advanced activity.

What I will outline in this article, are some basic MUST do’s and MUST do not’s. These are 100% important no matter what the situation or what your style and are better for beginners to focus on.

Don’t Come Across as Creepy or Weird

This sounds obvious, but it’s surprising how many people can come across as creepy just with their body language. Signs that you are creepy include lingering around or following a girl down the street, in a bar or shop for a long period of time. Stuff like having your tongue sticking out, making weird snickering noises, putting your finger in weird places or touching your private parts. All these come across as creepy activities.

Don’t Come Across as Threatening

This applies in particular to the bigger of us. If you weigh more than 80k, fat or muscle, you are much bigger than the majority of girls. Think about your size difference. They are not able to protect themselves physically and this may bring up an evolutionary survival mechanism called fear. Not what you want. Girls you are trying to get may feel threatened if you invade their personal space. Don’t get too close. Also, making fast, forceful movements may trigger fear as may making threatening faces. Don’t do this. It’s a sure fire way to kill a conversation.

Make sure to Make Eye Contact

Make sure to look at a girl you are trying to get in the eyes when you’re talking to her (in fact, you should do this with everyone in every conversation). Don’t stare like a creepy, threatening stalker. But you should be looking her in the eyes at least 50% of the time you are in conversation. It’s better to look her in the eyes when she is talking, this shows you are listening. Then break away when you start talking, and re focus on her eyes every time you want to emphasise a point.

Smile

Smile guys. A smile will never do you harm. People like happy people. It uses fewer muscles to smile than to frown. A smile brightens the day. Smile smile smile. Don’t go all maniacal like the Joker from Batman but a small smile when talking, then a smile when you get positive response will do wonders to make you seem friendly, non-threatening or creepy. When you smile at someone, it’s very hard for them to not smile back. And smiling releases positive chemicals. Basically there are 100 reasons why you should smile and zero why you shouldn’t. So do it.

Keep on getting the girls!

Getting the girls of your dreams requires talking to them. To talk to them, you will need to start a conversation. Although it’s so completely wrong and against how things should work, its not the norm to have beautiful girls come up and start talking to you unless you look like Brad Pitt (even then..)

There are other ways to get into conversations with beautiful girls without approaching them, such as developing your social circle so they are introduced to you, attending events like speed dating or joining a dance class. We may cover these later but they take longer to do and give one less control so for now, let’s focus on approaching women you have never met before.

There different conversation starters we will go over today.

Situational

A situational conversation starter works by getting into proximity to the girl you want to speak to in a subtle manner, then mentioning something about the situation to start the conversation.

This is how most normal conversations are started. They are good because there fairly unassuming,  have a low rate of rejection and feel quite natural.

An example of this would be walking up to the bar to order a drink, next to a girl you are interested in. Then mentioning something about the weird bar tenders hair, the band that is playing, the smell – or anything else to do with the situation.

Other examples could be:

• The line at the coffee shop
• The marching band in the parade
• The screaming kid in the mall

The problem with situational openers, is they are difficult to come up with if you are nervous and there is nothing obvious going on (ie its a Tuesday night and you’re at the local pub). But they can be great if you notice something clever or can change topic well.

Functional Opener

Functional openers are starting a conversation to complete a function. Examples include:

• Do you have the time?
• Do you know where xyz is?
• Would you mind watching my bag for a second? (if you’re in a coffee shop)

Pros:

These have similar benefits to the situational opener, maybe even more unassuming and with an even lower rate of rejection.

Cons:

They are extremely hard to build a conversation out of. You will get your answers and the interaction will be over. These are very difficult to pull off successfully, but they are great training tools if you are not used to talking to strangers.

Opinion Openers

From all the dating material that has come out lately, Opinion Openers have been the most widely used and best accepted openers. Here are some examples:

Example 1

Guy: Hey guys, I had a quick question and I was wondering if I could get your opinion.

Girls:  Sure

Guy: Who do you think lies more, men or women?

Girls: Men or Women (usually men)

Guy: Hmm interesting. So do you think its men (or women) because they actually lie more, or they just get caught more?

Girls: bla bla

Example 2

Guy:  Hey guys, quick question, I’ve been thinking about changing my hair, I was thinking fully blond and spiky (or any other outrageous style), what do you reckon?

Girls: Yes, no

Guy: Ok, what about a mow hawk?

Girls: Yes, no

Guy: Mullet?

Girls: Yes, no

Guy: Well what do you think I should do?

(They may have already offered opinions before this)

Pros

Opinion openers are great because if you have some good ones, you can get a good conversation going that has a likely hood to spin off on to a new topic by its self. You can also talk about interesting topics which give you a little bit of attraction. They give you lots of time to notice things about them to create an observational topic change. Plus once you have done one a few times, you can learn the general responses and prepare counter responses.

Cons

Opinion openers are what’s known as a “canned routine”. This can make some people feel quite uncomfortable. It can get boring saying the same thing over and over. There is the very slight possibility you may get caught using the same line as someone else.  They take lots of time so you can spend 10minutes in an opinion opener only to find out the girl you are interested in already has a boyfriend.

The Love Systems Routine Manual 1 and Routines Manual 2 have a large number of excellent opinion openers, broken down in detail for you to use. Check em out!

Semi-Direct Conversation Starters

Semi direct openers are lines that are obvious you are going over to start a conversation, but leave it open as to which particular girl you are interested in or if you are just being a friendly guy. Examples include:

• Hey guys, how’s it going?
• Hi!
• Hey!

Pros

These are great if you have a good vibe going on. People are generally friendly, especially in social situations like bars and clubs. They display confidence and social intuition which are attractive traits and they are easy to remember.

Cons

They can be a hard to topic change out of. And you need interesting material to go on with straight off the bat (where as the opinion opener gives you some interesting material until you can think of something next). Some girls who have massive bitch shields up may not respond to these kind of openers and just tell you to leave them alone (although that’s likely because of your status, social proof and body language)

Direct Openers

Direct openers are the ballsy openers. They require lots of confidence and do have a large percentage of blowing out or not working on the spot. Some people think this is a good thing however.

Examples:

• Hey, you’re cute, what’s your name?
• I saw you from across the room and just had to come over and say high, because if I didn’t, I would be kicking myself for the rest of the day.
• Hey, I know this may sound a little forward, but you are absolutely stunning. I noticed you from over there and had to come and say high, because if I didn’t, id seriously regret it tomorrow.

Pros

If said properly, with correct body language and confidence, these lines can basically close on the spot. You can basically win the girl from a single line. This is impossible from any other opener. These openers create automatic attraction because they display confidence and a man who knows what he wants. They are a quick screener to see if a girl is interested or available. If the girl has a boyfriend, you will know in the first 30 seconds, so you don’t have to waste any more time talking to her.

Cons

They can lead to instant rejection. These openers give you very little time to display your personality and build attraction with a girl so they can cause you to blow out instantly. They also take lots of confidence to pull off so are more difficult.

We earlier discussed the topic of picking up college girls in class. This was more focused on the logistics of the different types of classes (lectures, tutorials and labs). Below is a more rounded article on the concepts of attraction and interaction that will flow across all classroom environments.

One of the strongest ways of getting a girl from your class is to get her to like you by observing you. This is different to direct game where you will interact directly with the girl to get her attention and attraction. There are many things you can do to subtly make that girl (or many girls) in your class become interested.  These actions may not be enough to actually get the girl but they will put you on the right path and make her more receptive to interacting with you in the future.

What to do in class to gain the attention of the girls

Participate in class

Speak up, show you’re confident and engaging. Don’t be the teacher’s pet and answer every question, don’t come across as a try hard and try to talk for the whole class, just talk 2 or 3 times during the class. You will be surprised how few people actually speak up. Answer some of the questions the teacher asks, say a funny joke every now and then, get the teacher to like you and joke with you. Don’t be rude or obnoxious, but if there is something you can make a funny joke about do it. Ask if he will give you extra marks for washing his car or if you can do your economics assignment on the lemonade stand you used to run when you were 8. Being funny but still answering questions and being interactive will make the teacher like you. You are bringing a positive energy to the class and without slacking off.

Make friends

Speak to everyone in the room. Remember their names and things about them after you see them. A quick statement like ‘hey man, I’m Vincent, how was your weekend?’ can easily open a conversation. Try repeating people’s names 1-3 times in the first conversation, this will help you remember the name. If he told you he went hiking, next week ask him if he went hiking again. Also talk to people in the hallway before class while you are waiting outside. Walk with people after class to the next class or bus stop. Be interested in what they’re saying, but also talk about some of the cool stuff you’re doing. Talk about parties, class, sport and events that are going on. If you know of a good bar or event coming up (or that happens weekly) tell people to drop by.

Become a leader

This will follow naturally once you start doing the above two things, but being the leader, connector, organiser will always reflect positively in the eyes of the women.

How to tell girls are becoming attracted

You will start to gain looks in class from the girls if you keep the above behaviours up. Make sure you’re always smiling, staying positive and in a good mood. If you come into class grumpy and negative it’s not going to help your cause. You will also notice that girls will be very receptive to you when you start a conversation. If you walk up in the hallway and there is a hot girl you haven’t spoken to yet, walk up and say hey. At the start of the semester she may just respond with ‘hey’. After a few weeks of showing you are a cool and sociable guy with everyone in the class, she may respond with ‘hey, how are you? What have you been up to?’ This is a sign she is becoming more attracted.

What to do when you have attraction

Once a girl is more open to having a conversation with you, say, in the hallway, continue the conversation into the classroom and sit next to her. During class you can start to play fun games like tick tac toe, hang man (make the words funny or flirty like – ‘I like Vincent’), dots etc…

Go deeper into your conversations; start to get to know people better. Find out about their lives, interests, hobbies and passions. Relate and reward.

Finally, suggest meeting up outside of class. Study groups, parties, sport events, bars, etc…

You can’t hit on a girl in class. That’s just socially awkward. The goal in class is to get them to meet you at a later date. The ideal would be to just go for lunch with the girl alone after class, but if you have another class straight after, organise to meet her somewhere else as mentioned above. Also, make sure you are social with everyone in the class, not just her. Be friendly. Add everyone in your class to Facebook and update where you are headed when you’re going out. You might just start bumping into the girls

I came across a great post from Braddock at Lovesystems. He was answering an email from a guy who is just about to head to college and asked him what are some things he should do when first entering college to build his social circle and give him a great college experience with regards to the ladies. Here was his response:

Live near the action.
*Dorms if you guy have that are great
*The cool apartment complex where everyone lives and hangs out with the cool pool.
*House right near campus and all the parties or near the bars or near the tailgating for football games.
*The farther you live away from the action (even if it’s an awesome house) the more frustrated you will be and the more out of the loop you will feel.
*If you can live in the dorms….do it at least for a semester.  You will meet so many girls it’s stupid.

Get involved:
*The more things you are involved in the more chances you get to meet girls.
*Pick stuff that is easy and doesn’t take a lot of extra time. School is hard enough.  Don’t pick something that will eat up your week.

Throw Away Class or 2:
*Take at least one throw away class per semester that you know will be PACKED with girls.
*This class won’t help your major requirements and will be expensive way to meet girls, but it will assure you multiple encounters (a semesters worth) with the same girls, study sessions, etc…  Which will give you multiple times to slowly get on their radar, invite them to stuff, and when you go out you will see them at parties and bars and have girls to say hi to  “Buzz”
*Journalism classes are usually full of girls, education etc..

Ballroom Dancing:
*I took this every semester for 4 years.  I fucking hate dancing, but it had 200 girls and 40 guys.  We had to dance every song and as a result had a chance to flirt with and get to know every girl in class.  I dated 8 girls one semester just from ballroom dancing. (Doesn’t have to be ballroom dancing, that was what mine was called…I’m sure there are other classes like this).

Never Turn Down A Good Time:

*Don’t let it mess up your grades, but you need to try to go to every good frat party/bar/whatever is going on.  Exposure is key.  If you only go out once a week, you will look up and feel like everyone on campus knows everyone and you will feel like you are on the outside looking in.

*Make guy and girl buddies.  Meet people and introduce them to people.  Make it a habit of texting people and asking them what’s going on and inviting them to things you hear about.

*Frat guys may be annoying as hell, but on some campuses they hold the key to the castle so to speak.  Make some buddies in the houses and they can get you into the parties and introduce you to people.

*Try to get a schedule that allows you to have Fridays off or at least start late on Fridays.  Most colleges have big party nights on Thursdays.

You can read the full post here.

A very good outcome from an interaction with a hot girl is getting the girls phone number. This is generally a pretty safe outcome and from here we would be looking to get her out on a date.

There a number of ways to get a girls number. This usually happens after she is interested in you and after you have shown you’re interested in her. Plus you have built some rapport together. But remember all rules can be broken.

Here are a few ways to ask for the number:

• Hey it’s been fun talking to you but I’ve gotta get back to my friends, give me your number and we can finish this later.
• I don’t have time to competently flirt with you at the moment, but give me your number and I’ll give you a call.
• It was nice meeting you. Give me your number and ill give you a call sometime.
• You know that place I was talking about? Yeh xyz. You should come sometime. Give me your number and I’ll take you.

Few things to point out. Notice how every statement says “give me”. This is not an aggressive give me, more like an assumptive. Don’t demand the number, but assume she is perfectly OK with giving it to you. Just like if you were talking with a colleague about a work issue, and you needed to call someone to fix it. “Give me his number and ill call him”

There are some great phone number closes in Magic Bullets and detailed instructions on what to do once you have the number.

These are the kind of girls we work towards. Truly sexy girls. This is the ultimate reason we learn how to meet, attract and seduce beautiful college girls.

10. Blake Lively

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Now famous for her role on Gossip Girls, Blake played Monica Moreland in Accepted and we liked it.

9. Lacey Chabert

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Lacey plays the sexy sorority sister Dana in Black Christmas.

8. Reese Witherspoon

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Who could not love this ditsy, smart and amazingly hot law student?

7. Kristen Bell

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Kristen plays the sexy college girl gone detective in Veronica Mars.

6. Rachel Bilson

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We like Summer from the OC more after she becomes of legal age and heads off to Brown.

5. Tara Reid

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Back in the days of Van Wilder Tara was one hot piece of ass.

4. Jennifer Love Hewitt

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I Know What You Did Last Summer Jennifer.

3. Shannon Elizabeth

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Shannon graduates to college in American Pie two as the seductive Nadia.

2. Tiffany Amber Thiessen

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Tiffany Amber Thiessen was every boys first crush as Kelly Kapowski, who headed to college in Saved by the Bell: The College Years.

1. Sarah Michelle Gellar

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Also part of the cast of I Know What You Did Last Summer… What a great movie!

Getting any girl into bed is a complex process. Some guys make it look so easy, while others struggle their whole life trying to make it happen. There are a number of factors that can make or break the end result of actually fucking a college girl. Here are some tips to look out for.

You can’t Logic a Girl into Bed

This is one of the major problems that guys have with girls. They try and convince them logically to sleep with them. This is rarely possible. Logically, there are hundreds of reasons for a girl to NOT fuck you, and chances are, they will be stronger than any logical reason you can come  up with for her TOO fuck you. So what do you do? Focus on getting her attracted to you, comfortable with you, then work on the logistics to get her home with you. You should NEVER talk about having sex. It should always ‘just happen’.

Take Small Steps

If you have enough attraction, it is possible to say to a girl you have met in a club or you are on a date with ‘let’s go home and have sex’ but it is truly not a high percentage play. Instead, take small steps. First goal is to get her alone. Not necessarily in your house, but somewhere away from her friends. Try taking her from the club to a restaurant, or for a walk, down to the river. Then ask her if she wants to come and watch a movie at yours.  Then lead her into the bedroom later in the night. You should always give her plausible deniability. This is important so the girl doesn’t feel like a slut. She may really want to sleep with you, but societies conditioning may hold her back.

Physical Stimulation Overrides All Else

Sometimes, you may have a girl in bed but she starts telling you she doesn’t want to sleep with you, she doesn’t know you, she doesn’t want to seem easy, whatever… It is important to not address these statements because it will switch her into a logical state. If you are feeling resistance, you have to let the girl stay in a fun, pleasurable emotional and physical state. Do this by either ignoring the verbal and focusing on the physical, or acknowledging the verbal and continuing with physical. If a girl says “I don’t even know you, we shouldn’t be doing this”, respond with “I totally agree, this is very naughty” then continue with foreplay.

** Idiot disclaimer – If a girl seriously tells you to stop, you need to stop. That is called rape. Rapists are sick assholes who should be shot. The goal here is to let the girl enjoy her emotional feelings and remove the society ingrained guilt that can result from sexual acts. Not to force yourself on her.

It is a true fact that our psychology is determined buy genetic and environmental circumstances. Its also true that these are going to be different to everyone and can easily be changed through individual focus, but if you have no information on someone besides a few arbitrary factors there are some judgements that can be made that will hold true most of the time.

For this example, we are going to look at single, unmarried girls. College girls represent 18-25, older girls 25-35 years old.

General Demeanour

College girls in general are in a phase of fun, discovery and growth. They are mostly on an ambitious path of some sort, discovering new things in the world and “figuring out what they want to do in life”. They will be interested in their careers and studies but will also have a high emphasis on fun, experience, travel, excitement and the like. Because of this demeanour, they will be interested in guys who can bring fun, excitement and show them new experiences. They are also interested in guys who can learn and grow with them.

Older girls will be a little more directed. They are still going to be interested in fun and excitement, but will also be screening for long term relationships characteristics. Things like ability to provide for children, having similar interests and experienced success (as opposed to potential success) are all important for an older girl. She is generally going to have more of an idea what kind of guy she is looking for and how she wants her life to go in general.

Attractive Traits

Because of the different demeanour of these girls means that there will be different qualities that they will find attractive. Again, these qualities are not steadfast, but if you know nothing about a girl except for her age these are some of your better bets.

College girls are looking for fun and excitement. They are more interested in the now than the future. Because of this, they will probably respond better to emotional stimulation. Intense emotional stimulation, taking them of a roller coaster of push and pull. Tension and release. Do this through humour, teasing, jealousy plotlines and role plays. Be a challenge, be high energy and be fun.

Older girls will put more emphasis on the actual type of person you are, your interests and commonalities. They may not be looking for a long term relationship with but will have been around long enough to know they don’t want to spend their time with someone who they don’t enjoy talking with. They will require more comfort and rapport. They will also find characteristics like status, social value (and proof), protector of loved ones and leader of men attractive.

Sex

College girls will be just as open to having sex as older woman (or the other way around if you thought different), there are just triggers that will affect each differently.  College girls will be open to having sex as long as you make it fun. They will also be more afraid of what their friends thing. This includes going home with a random stranger, having sex on the first night, being thought of as a slut and just going home with a guy whom their friends don’t approve of. Because of this, if you are out somewhere with a college girls friends, make sure to make a good impression on them.  College girls will also not be as comfortable with their sexuality. Because of these, they may require a pre-text to having sex. This may just be because they are not as used to thinking about it logically as older woman. So give them a pre-text, plausible deniability if you will. Tell them about your fish tank or music collection instead of being obvious.

Older girls will be more comfortable with their sexuality. This means they will be open to talking about sex (although probably not right away!). They will need less of a pre-text to having sex. They wont need you to put so much emphasis of making the whole process ‘fun’. If you make the interaction fun, she will know what is coming. She will be open to the idea of having sex and will not need to be guided through the stages. Simply asking her if she wants to come back to yours will work well enough as long as you have had a good date/interaction and have gotten her attracted.

Being social and having a great group of friends is a key factor when attracting girls in college. The tricky situation with college against randomly meeting girls on the street on in a bar is that in college you will run into the same people over and over. Plus they will have a connection to you in some way meaning they may know things about you through their friends. They may know you are a jock or a geek, who you hang out with, who you’ve dated before; important things to consider when building an attractive personality.

If you have a social circle of high value friends, you’re more likely to get girls (think the football team). Depending on your background, it may difficult to just walk and make friends with the football team. But if you work slow and stead you will be able to build a group of friends, and off that group expand into a bigger group with more value.

If you are living on a dorm (as opposed to a frat) it may be difficult to expand your social circle. Things are little less social and more isolated.

Start off by hanging outside where people are. If you stay in your room, chances you will meet new people are zero. Hang out in the café, quad or dorm common rooms. Be fun and entertaining. Smile at people that walk past. Introduce yourself to everybody. Assume that everyone in college is out to make new friends and have a good time (because they actually are!).

To build relationships with the people you will need to be seen over and over again. Not just once for 5 minutes. When you meet someone for the first time don’t smother them and be pushy to be their friend. Just act like a cool guy. Give value. Small talk about funny stuff or cool things that are happening around campus like parties, or the cute girl sitting in the corner. Just small stuff. Try and give value straight away by inviting them to join you in a game of sports, to a party or bar that’s supposed to be good.

When in class, talk about homework, the teachers funny pants, and the same parties, girls, sports stuff.  The more people you know the better. Once you see people over and over you will start to develop relationships. Keep inviting new people to all the events you’re going to. Soon, invitations will start coming back. You will build yourself an interesting and entertaining lifestyle with lots of friends. A lifestyle that will naturally include girls you can approach.